Modern-day parents do not have villages
The adage “it takes a village to raise a child” is true, but the reality is that modern-day or western world parents do not always have villages to draw from.
Families are strewn all over the world, many children grow up without grandparents or uncles or aunts around them, and the demands that life places upon parents to provide for their families often diminish our villages due to a lack of time or resources.
As a result, overwhelmed and overextended are two words synonymous with parenting in the 21st century.
According to psychologists:
Parenting stress is the distress you experience when you feel you just can’t cope as a parent. The demands being placed on you are too high. You don’t have the resources to meet them (Deater-Deckard 1998; Holly et al 2019).
Consider the following results from a meta-analyses conducted by S. Katherine Nelson and her colleagues (Nelson et al 2014; Nelson et al 2013).
- Sometimes parents report higher levels of wellbeing than do childless adults. But only when their burdens are relatively light.
- Parents report greater well-being if they have high levels of social support, and/or kids with no problems (children with easy temperaments, in good physical and emotional health).
- Any one of these following conditions may however cause heightened levels of stress:
- The study also confirms how these, and other stressors can affect your parenting. You can read the full article here
- having at least one child with a difficult temperament;
- having at least one child with medical, emotional, or behaviour problems;
- having only low levels of social support;
- being a single parent;
- having a young child.
The study also confirms how these, and other stressors can affect your parenting. You can read the full article here
How parent coaching can help
Parenting coaches are a wonderful resource for parents who find themselves spread thin. Perhaps it might be awkward at first to ask a complete stranger for help with your unique family dynamics and challenges, but the input of an objective and well-qualified individual may be exactly what you need to gain perspective on your challenges.
Our coaches often become an extension of the families they work with, as many of our clients have built wonderful relationships and even friendships with them, as they journey through the different ages and stages of their families together.
Our parent coaching services include home visits, virtual consultations and coffee consultations.
We recently added a new offering for busy parents, who may need resources that can fit into their busy schedules, with the added benefit of a 1-hour virtual consultation included in the package price, to discuss any questions or further interventions.
The packages are in audio (interviews with Super Granny, Andalene Salvesen) and e-pub format (our parenting books) so parents can listen in their own time, or read the books on their mobile devices.